For me right now, it’s books followed shortly of watching things. And I mean watching things that isn’t YouTube. Recently, I’ve been donating totes of books, books I’ve spent a long time having thrifted for and waited to get without having to cave to spending online.
And those books just sat there for months and months without being picked up to be read. Even books I wanted! I used to have a 5-shelf bookcase filled with books, another 3 shelf filled with books, a structure compromising of a shoe shelf and TV-stand filled with books. Now after donating things, I am only down to a single three-shelf bookcase just packed up with what books I have decided to remain with me.
As for watching things, I’ve discarded over 120+ DVDs from my collection, I still have a hefty amount, like I have nearly 5 full disc books filled with discs of a wide variety of movies and shows to watch should I ever not be online or want time off from being online. All just continue to sit there unwatched as I just keep watching YouTube video after YouTube video.
I just think I am coming around to the acceptance that I just will not give myself time to these hobbies and that they’re probably dying out, I predict that if I don’t do anything in the next couple years should they all sit and gather more dust, I’ll just let them all go.
I have ADHD. I’ve forgotten more hobbies than most people have heard of.
Programming. I don’t like where it’s heading and I don’t like the culture
The culture is gross.
I used to be a software engineer, but moved into infrastructure instead, so I haven’t really been programming much for few years. But all the vibe coding I see around me is making me yearn for coding the old-school way. And I’ve been searching a bit for something to apply that drive to…
Unfortunately, the types of video games I can play has been severely limited in the past several years by muscle disease. I have tried to adapt with low-APM turn-based games like Slay the Spire, Into the Breach and chess. While I have developed a certain fondness for these games, they were never my first choice.
The recent release of Silksong has been especially hard on me because its predecessor was one of my favorites. I haven’t been able to bring myself to watch a play-through of it yet.
Super duper looking forward to Mewgenics, though! Only 4 months to go.
strongly recommend just cheating the shit out of silksong on PC. download a trainer and turn down damage taken during combat + make yourself invincible for platforming challenges.
Have you tried Balatro? If you like Slay the Spite there’s a good chance you will enjoy it.
Definitely. Love that game. If it’s turn-based and even remotely popular there’s a very good chance I’ve played it.
Nice. Got any suggestions?
Also a very different kind of game but have you played citizen sleeper?
Never heard of it. Looks pretty interesting.
Lately I’ve really been enjoying Shogun Showdown. I made a post recently outlining a bunch of the games I like. I can vouch for all of those. Make sure to check out the rest of the thread too. I avoided repeating what others said.
The new Final Fantasy Tactics Remaster is really good if you haven’t played it yet.
One of the best games ever made imo
Thanks for the suggestion. I forgot that came out recently and I never did play the original or the PSP remake. I hear lots of good things about it.
So good… The remaster includes the full original game as well
I used to get so much enjoyment out of video games. I could play for entire weekends. Now I sit down and play for an hour or so and start to get bored.
This is only the first stage.
Next you’ll stop gaming completely, but still enjoy watching others play.
Then even watching gets annoying. That’s where I am now. I don’t know what’s next.
Next stage is some amount of time away from video games.
The stage after that is nostalgia: someone will mention one of the games you loved back in the day and you’ll think “That was when I was happiest. I should find out how to play that again.”
Then you’ll find some way to play it, whether by cobbling together some emulation software or buying some As Seen on TV handheld game that includes your game and a hundred others.
You’ll scratch a little bit of the itch, but decide to start checking out the current video game scene.
Once you realize everything now is too flashy and fast and annoying or it has some dreaded multiplayer requirement that you no longer have enough friends to fulfill and the public rooms of the game are filled with a bunch of children.
Eventually, you’ll stumble into the future’s version of Stardew Valley and be content just building quiet little worlds by yourself.
Next you’ll stop gaming completely, but still enjoy watching others play.
Speak for yourself.
When adults get bored of gaming, it’s because they end up doing other things in their lives completely unrelated to it.
Gaming.
I used to play every day with my best friend for 30 years until one day he threw me under a bus, so to speak, cut off all contact and I don’t even know why
I have an awesome wife now with whom I spend every second and I don’t really have any time left to play games
I posted on another thread about this a while back. Oddly, I have a weird mental block that stopped me gaming when I was 16 back in the 90s.
Basically, being a nerd in small-town rural Scotland was not something to be proud of after a certain age, and gaming was social kryptonite, so being an insecure teen I focused my energies on bands and drinking.
This was great for a while, but looking back, it would appear that I completely missed out on the Golden Age of gaming, and now it’s me who is the odd one out at work, having never played anything beyond a sneaky stab at Portal.
I’m now 48 and in two minds about it. On one hand, some of the guys at work have failed to launch and live physically isolated lives and spend all their time gaming. On the other, I see my own kids laughing their asses off playing Fortnite with their friends, and they are clearly having the best time.
I did try playing with them briefly, but they’re already leaving me for dust. So yeah, my plan is to maybe low-key get into gaming again when I retire in like 17 years’ time. We shall see.
You’re the sexond 48yo Scotsman I saw in 2 minutes here in Lemmy. You have alt accounts? I don’t mind, just thought it a funny coincidence
I did have another account on another instance a few weeks back, but it kept going down so I created this one on lemmy.world. I had the same username without the 2 on the end, so it could be that. Can you recall the username?
Books have always been rough for me, I need them to grab me instantly, cant bruteforce anymore, either way, my imagination is fried, so I swapped to comics, did junkfood reading webtoons/manhua,etc. for a bit, binged a ton of stuff, eventually wanted more, started reading comics again and this hobby has stuck for over a year, the visuals help me get into stuff I otherwise wouldn’t read even if it’s super wordy.
I haven’t had a book phase since I started using tiktok, I blame that app. I used to binge read some high fantasy series once a year for at least a month, I miss the brain tingly feeling of stuff coming together, movies and tv shows give it rarely, some books sent electricty down my spine and I felt like I was physically on molly just rolling tits as stuff came together, like hiw ppl describe asmr, but since tiktok I just zone out instead of getting in to books, really want to read the most recent stormlight and gentleman bastards (if that releaed havent checked)
I’ve started bringing a book, (or bookmarking a wedpage with the book) and reading in waiting rooms.
It’s not much, but it’s nice to grab a book instead of my phone. Small changes
I felt gaming slipping way from me for years, turned out I had killed my dopaminergic response with tiktok. About a year since quitting tiktok and I’m gaming more than ever again, AND enjoying it.
Magic the gathering is slipping as a hobby, mostly because I’ve been playing other games though
I’ve recently gotten back into reading as a way to wind down before bed without using the phone, and it has done wonders for my sleep. Pair it with a kobo ereader and downloading, uh, free books means there’s no pressure to read books you don’t enjoy (I find with physical books they tend to loom at you from the shelf and make you feel guilty for not reading, which only makes things worse).
Anyway to get to the point reading can be a very low investment hobby if you want it to be.
+1 for the e-reader. As someone who consistently has three or four books in progress at the same time, an e-reader is how I manage to actually read. I tend to pick my reading based on a whim or mood at the time. If I’m leaving for work, I won’t know how I’ll feel once I have time to read. Instead of lugging all four books with me, I’ll tend to bring none. Which means I don’t end up reading throughout the day.
But with an e-reader, that situation is entirely flipped on its head. Don’t know what I’ll want to read? It doesn’t matter, because my entire library is on the kobo. My only limitation now is comics, because .cbz files tend to take up a lot more space than .epub files do. So I’ll consistently have my entire library, and also a few comics. But even the comics problem is largely solved, because I host my own Komga server, which my kobo can connect to and download new comics.
Electronics. Components are getting harder to get (internet orders makes hem expensive) and my eyes are no longer that good when soldering (even with glasses)
Drone flying.
There are far too many idiots out there that are downright dangerous, annoying, and ignorant. I worked on the “rescue helicopter”(HEMS) in the past and basically everyone of my former colleagues can come up with various near-misses. The rules are god damn easy,the smaller licences are easy to get and if you use a (free!) App for the tricky questions (flight areas) combined with some common sense you’re good.
But people willfully don’t do that.
Combine that with the massive rise in hybrid warfare drones here(Central Europe) and I have absolutely zero desire to continue with that hobby.
Funny enough it was a discussion I had here on lemmy (with another account) that was the final nail for me.
A group of posters basically refused to use a (free and GDPR compliant) flight area app as it was only available on Playstore, the web app (which is explicitly provided as an alternative) could not be used as it’s source code was not provided (whut?) and therefore it’s not their fault when they fly into a marked HEMS approach zone in a hospital.
Yeah. I don’t want to associated with these people.
Most common reason to give these up seems to be lack of time. Why has our amount of time changed? We still work the same hours, get purchases delivered, have the same families even with fewer kids so we should have more not less right? What is eating into our available time? Is it social media?
How long back do you want to go
I used to be involved in my local Warhammer/Wargaming scene. Like full bore painting, modeling, 3d printing, doing tournaments, having a bi-weekly club. Unfortunately I fell on hard times and then my baby brother had a baby. So had to sell most of my stuff. We live together that’s why. Can’t have resin printers around a newborn. That’s a super hard no. I kept the paint because I used oils instead of acrylics, but that never turned into canvas painting. I sold all my armies across like 7 different game systems. The only games I have left are Infinity and trading card games. It’s all just sitting in boxes in the attic right now.
I don’t know if I’ll get back to doing any of it any time soon. I got to get a job and a car. I wanna move to a new city, but unfortunately that city is turning into a fucking ICE stomping ground. One of my friends in the scene recently died and at his funeral almost our whole social group showed up. Sounds like we all scattered and haven’t been participating in hobby as much. Most people found other things to do.
It was a great run. About 10 years of a social life and something to do. At one point you think it’s never gonna end because it’s so good, but life will find a way. I hope to get back to it some day.
Tbh, most of my old hobbies I thought I had lost interest in came flooding back once I started running and exercising and eating better. It’s actually been months now since I last worked out. I’m in the process of writing a story, and I love it. So…none, with a new one.
After a lifetime of reading comic books, and amassing a pretty large collection, i just… stopped. It wasn’t so much losing interest as I’d gotten what I needed from them. I just don’t need them anymore. Now I’m left with 50 some boxes of comics to get rid of…
Damn, 50 boxes is a LOT. I thought I had too many to get rid of… I think I have around 24 that I have to offload.
I do not envy you at all.
Yeah. And I was never a collector so much as an accumulator (preservationist, if we’re being generous). It’s all just stuff that I read.
Im not sure how much I miss it as I to am a recovering comic book collector. If you have anything from the powerline series (powerline, doctor zero, saint george, or critical mass) from way back and are near chicago and care to exchange let me know.
I had one or two of critical mass at some point. I had to look it up, but I remember some of those covers
Comics.
I collected when I was a kid for a few years. That was probably 1990-1993. Lost interest after a while.
I came back to the hobby for brief periods in 2013 and 2017, picking up a few of the Bronze Age key books that I wanted when I was a lot younger. Now I was older and had the money to buy those books.
In the covid years there was a comic-boom, and I was caught up in that. There were a lot of things happening within the hobby and a lot of people making YouTube content around it.
The problem with getting too involved with comics is that they take up too much fucking space. Right now, I have around 4500 books in the collection. That number needs to come down to like 1000.
I’ve been working on a full run of the original X-Men series. I have 21 books to go until I’ve completed the 545 book run. I do still intend to obtain the remaining 21 books; but there’s no immediate plans for buying any old books that aren’t X-Men. I’ll keep those. There’s probably around 400 or so other books that I’d like to hold on to, and that’s how I’ve arrived at my 1000#. I want to get rid of pretty much 2/3 of the entire collection at this point. It just takes up too much space. I still buy new books too, but am finding it less enjoyable (relative to other options) since I’ve moved to a different state. There’s a lot more outdoors stuff for me to do in the new state, but the LCS is also a longer drive now.
Selling them is truly a major pain in the ass too. eBay has a limit of 250 free listings per month. I don’t want to exceed that, otherwise I spend $0.35 per listing, even if the (average buy it now price is $4) listing doesn’t sell. Whatnot is an alternative to eBay, but that really requires actively getting in camera and trying to sell stuff to people. That’s a huge time expense. There’s also other places like hipcomic that auction books but I have no interest in selling there. When I was more buying (rather than trying to sell) those sites always seemed to be overpriced, and so I stopped going. I imagine I’m not alone in that experience. I speculate they have low traffic, and so the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
Wrapping up, yes… I’m falling out of this hobby but more so because I’m almost done with the original goal; but the current state of my coexistence with the beast of collecting is causing me a combination of both anxiety and resentment. The reality is that I’ll have to somehow, someway, spend a lot of time getting rid of these 3500 or so books without being totally ripped off in the process. Getting rid of them doesn’t sound fun at all. Dealing with people is annoying. I don’t enjoy haggling. I don’t enjoy taking 1000s of pictures of comics with my phone. I don’t enjoy salesmanship in any way, shape or form.
What started as a fun “chase that goal,” type hobby evolved into a “this is taking up a ton of space, and you now need to either pretend to be someone you’re not for a long time to get rid of them properly, throw them in the trash, or just get totally fucked over by selling them in bulk direct to some other reseller” type deal. No one tells you that when you get into comics.
