I donā€™t usually ever talk about things like this, especially to strangers and I will probably delete it eventually butā€¦.

Iā€™m 21. And from like age 8-20 I had a problem with stealing. And it was not because I necessarily needed to but I would usually just take candy from stores. And as stupid as sounds, thatā€™s literally the only reason why I did itā€¦because I wanted candy. Only time I took something I actually needed were some batteries and a phone charger but nothing beyond just that. I also took money from my classmates lockers and I even once almost took someoneā€™s iPod, but I was so afraid that I ended up giving it back the next day. But whatā€™s even worse is the fact that I have taken some of my brotherā€™s birthday/Christmas money that he keeps in a stash. Rough estimate at least $250. Could be less. And yes I do feel horrible about it all. And I wish I could go back in time and have never done it to begin with. Fast forward to now I have successfully fought off the urge to shoplift because I know how bad it can be for your career if you get caught. Iā€™m currently a full time college student so I donā€™t work. My dad gives me a certain amount of spending money every week to kind of help me. And I have been putting a bit of it back in my brotherā€™s stash as restitution. And no I havenā€™t told my brother because we do have a good relationship and heā€™s one of the closest people to me. I appreciate any advice. Feel free to call me a pos as well.

Edited Update: thanks for the advice and support. So basically after going back and forth about it I decided to tell my mom pretty much what I told this thread. I didnā€™t go too deep into detail in terms of listing every single thing I took but I told her enough to know whatā€™s going on. Surprisingly, she didnā€™t get angry about it. Disappointed, yes. But I know she was glad I told her. She reminded me in her humorous fashion that she ā€œreserves the right to get mad.ā€ So this weekend we plan on going to the bank to get money out of my savings and give it to my brother. Right now, heā€™s at school in a difference city and wonā€™t be back until Spring break. Thatā€™s when I plan on telling him and giving him the money and will offer to buy him lunch afterwards. I do feel better now that my mom knows but the mission isnā€™t accomplished until my brother knows. Like I said, him and I are fairly close and we rarely fight over anything besides petty stupid stuff, so I donā€™t know how he will react. Prayers and good luck would be appreciated as well as any additional advice.

  • pebbles@sh.itjust.works
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    I get why you would feel like a bad person. You stole and thatā€™s easily considered wrong. Feeling bad about that is natural.

    I think you are allowed room for mistakes. And if something is a habit it is good to be kind to yourself. Cleaning up a long held bad habit can take longer than we expect.

    My advice is that sometimes we realize we want to live differently, and thatā€™s awesome. You obviously want to give back and be kind to people. You are also very young and impulse control is a bitch. It doesnā€™t finish developing till late 20s.

    Youā€™ll make more mistakes in the future. Youā€™ll realize youā€™ve hurt people and thatā€™s okay, thatā€™s life. Just keep adjusting and donā€™t be too hard on yourself.