I just entered a text message chat from the group of students of my course, and after talking a there over some days with a sophomore (most of the chat was just me interacting with someone else) someone replied after some time “wow, the freshmen are really getting acquainted, writing shit and what else”. That was so out pocket, closed the app and now I am ranting here, is this still kind of behavior normal in your uni/country? Its so bizarre, the guy was just sophomore. EDIT: thanks everyone for the replies, I appreciate them, I think there’s some grow on my part to be done, because this seems to be way more common than I think. Welp, kinda of a bummer anyway.

  • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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    22 hours ago

    This, don’t interact with your classmates or co-workers unless it’s strictly necessary and business-related is what I’ve learned. Everybody has their cliques and communities outside of these spaces. It’s as unacceptable as approaching people on the street and could constitute harassment. As a neurodivergent person this boggles my mind because the neurotypicals always talk about community and whatnot and socializing and approaching people but all of this is just one of their bizarre contradictions, they don’t actually want to connect with other random human beings, they only want to talk about how they can’t.

    • LazyingHarderThanEver@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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      22 hours ago

      I mean it was a group chat not focused on studies and other people were already sending memes and workout tips there, so I don’t really know what I did wrong. Like, it just bothered me, and I am a bit sad that even something so small could bother me,

      • garbagebagel@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        21 hours ago

        You didn’t do anything wrong, especially if it was a social group chat intentionally created for that. I think the idea of “never talk to your colleagues” is a bit wild tbh. There’s a time and a place, certainly, but unless the chat was created strictly for talking about schoolwork, you did nothing wrong. In many courses I’ve taken, professors will create these social spaces (especially in virtual environments) specifically for people to network and get to know each other. Don’t overdo it, but unless you were literally spamming unrelated crap, I don’t see any issue with what you did.

        Don’t feel bad that it bothered you either. It wasn’t a very kind or necessary comment, and if the person was bothered by the notifications they could’ve just turned them off, they didn’t have to try to embarrass you. But as others have said, you’ll hopefully grow out of giving a shit when people are jerks.