• SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
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    1 month ago

    They will not come here because there’s an absolute fuckton of hostility.

    My favorite woman-centric community went dark due to lack of moderation. Mods left because it was so damn hostile.

    The t×nkie problem is also pretty bad.

    Federated spaces will forever be niche spaces, because of all of this. Say “good” all you want, but it’d be great to have mass adoption.

    • Blaze (he/him)@feddit.orgOP
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      1 month ago

      The t×nkie problem is also pretty bad.

      Aren’t you okay on sopuli.xyz? I now use lemmy.cafe as my main, they block ml, hexbear and grad

      • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
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        I am! But I left 4-5 other instances before finally settling. Blahaj especially actually welcomed HB at one point because “trans solidarity”, which opened the door to mass harassment. …again. I was so absolutely disappointed because I was like “hey…don’t” and was basically told off.

        “Oh you can block them if you don’t like it! It’s up to the individual!” I’m sure that’s fine if you’re tough & completely mentally stable, but these people genuinely triggered my PTSD, which had not been a thing that had happened to me in years. It left me and my faith in this whole thing very very shaken.

        That aside, I think sopuli only has ML unblocked because it has such large tech communities.

        I really really really loved Beehaw, too, but after their talk about moving away from Lemmy, I scrambled to find another home.

        An average user is not going to want to continually move around to keep themselves sane & safe.

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          An average user is not going to want to continually move around to keep themselves sane & safe.

          Indeed, I think I’ll just recommend lemmy.cafe as the safe recommendation from now on

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      They could outnumber and shout down the existing user base in a day. The number of active users in the fediverse is quite small. A tiny number of toxic people have killed the open social web for the next decade.