I get the sense from your wording that you might be in the younger end of the spectrum. Although the world can feel pretty shitty and messed up, it’s often worth remembering “this too shall pass”. Obviously no one wants the world to be awful, and living through hard times isn’t desirable, but just like the good stuff never lasts, the bad stuff changes too. The Great Depression lasted a decade, the Nazis ran Germany for just a bit longer.

Those were presumably fucking dreadful times to live through. But the decades that followed were comparatively prosperous for the countries. What’s happening in the US is depressing as all hell, but it’ll change, and all you can do is the best you can to make it less dreadful, for yourself and the people around you.

I’ve used (and loved) Sleep as Android for yeeears. It’s a great app and the developer is always adding extra things, new wearable integration and stuff. So, I really don’t mean to bitch because I think it’s a solid app with solid support. But I recommended it to a friend the other day and they pointed out the unlock is now €69.99!! I~~ think it was a fiver when ~~just checked my email, it was €1.99 in 2013 when I unlocked it.

Defintely recommend, and I think the free version is still pretty amazing. But wow, even with extra features, that’s some inflation.

Totally agree. Seeing how “Internet like” communication existed before the Internet is always fascinating to me. Whether it’s fanclubs, wargaming zines or Enlightened era correspondence, people have had written interactions with effective strangers for centuries. But it was incredibly different before.

The very act of sitting down to write, paying some money and effort to literally post it probably had a huge calming effect on idle bad faith takes. And I imagine that getting a letter with someone telling me names for thinking McCoy is better than Spock would probably make me feel derisively sorry for the poor nerd who went to the effort.

My take is that written communication is hard, unless a) you know each other really well, e.g. messaging friends, or b) you write carefully and with enough detail to help the other person understand fully your position, and they bother reading with the same care.

When you read an essay or article it of often begins by setting out the problem, giving some context and even defining their priorities and approach, before they make a claim or argument. They spend time addressing the obvious criticisms of their argument, and ideally admiting weak spots, and maybe even empathising with why someone might reject their position. This means that when you read an article like that, even if argues against something important to you, you don’t feel attacked. It’s calm, general reasoning, and obviously not a personal a attack on you as an individual.

But if you post an picture of the secondhand car you’ve saved for two years to afford, and the first comment is “fuck cars, they’re killing the planet” it’s easy to feel like it’s a personal and it’s aggressive. Or if you write a pretty reasonable but contraversial opinion, people might not have the time or will to break it down and explain why it’s wrong, but they don’t want other people to read it and think it’s okay, so they down vote and comment a quick “what is this shit ?”

I’m not sure I really understand the question. ‘this’ and ‘that’ are both used to tlsk about something when it’s obvious from context what you’re referring to.

Situation - in a bakery “i want that” (pointing at the cake on the shelf) “I want this too” (pointing at the bread by the counter) Next customer “i want the same”

Situation - you’re on a date in fancy restaurant, you’re date has just finished explaining she wants to have lots of children “I want that” (the children she’s been discussing) “but I want this too” (gesturing around at the adult single life you’re enjoying " " I want this too" she reassures you

I don’t think there’s much variation between the main English dialects / varities. This and that are key grammatical words.

That’s interesting. I’m not a film guy at all, and it certainly never occurred to me that it pioneered some of the key stuff in modern movies (although that totally makes sense). But I remember enjoying it! The pacing felt quite good, there were some mysteries and character drama. Not a top movie for me personally, but pretty watchable for a B&W movie.

Mostly just water, but defintely happy to have multiple drinks at the same time. Particularly breakfast, I can have coffee, juice, water and a Bloody Mary. But in general I want hot drinks hot, and fizzy drinks fizzy. So if I have a lot of drinks on the go I’ll have to drink them quickly.

Yeah, absolutely. But that’s surviorship bias. If my relationship wasn’t worth it, I wouldn’t stay in it. The real cost isn’t the effort getting there, it’s the daily effort keeping it working. Dealing with your own shit, and someone else’s can be exhausting.

But, for lots of lucky people it’s totally worth it. My partner brings me so much joy, at a deep level, and also a lot of silly entertainment like any good friend. And although it’s a lot of work, they also constantly make my life simpler and help me with the things I can’t handle.

And I don’t know your situation, but I never saw myself as being with someone. And then, pretty randomly, I’m my late 30s, having never ‘dated’ or been in a real relationship, I ended up meeting up with someone and now we’re married and have had many happy (and sometimes difficult) years together. I never expected it to happen, and I certainly didn’t expect to love it as much as I do. But anything can happen, as long as you remain open to possibility.

Also, loads of people lave and prefer being single. It’s just the ones in relationships are going to be (mostly) ones that it’s working for.

Inductive reasoning. I don’t have any non-circular reason to believe that previous experience should predict future events. But I’m gonna believe it anyway.

I’d agree with that. If you use you’re vast wealth to do awful things then you’re an awful person. But I’ve defintely had moments when a moment of rage or lust or other bad intention has bubbled up inside, and I’ve wanted to buy a business just to fire the rude person I’ve argued with, or hire a team of sex workers just to fulfill some weird fantasy. But as a poor normal person those thoughts appear and pass because i can’t do anything about them. I’d hope that if I was a billionaire, I’d still take a moment and realise the gap between id urge and superego approved action, but who knows?

Are you mot going to respond the commenters points? He went to the trouble of reading the article, and you’ve complained that you can’t discuss this because people won’t listen to what’s being said. So here’s your chance.

Oh I improvise, and I never really plan meals beyond grabbing stuff at the shop. I try to use stuff up before it goes off, and am willing to eat stuff even when it’s past it’s best. When I have time I try to make stuff even just to freeze for later, but that’s hard with a packed schedule.

But it’s not easy, and sometimes I’m jealous of people who are satisfied with eating things repeatedly and eating to a routine. Since I love food, and love eating different things, I need to buy a good variety of fresh ingredients. But I’m disorganised and not good at going to market, visiting the butcher, etc. So we end up running out of food and just eating the same old things or stuff from the freezer. Or I buy too much when I go out, and then a week later the reblochon is stinking up the fridge, but I can’t make tartiflette until we eat the salmon which is now kinda out of date but I don’t have time to make a proper shellfish stock til the weekend…

Balancing “tasty food” + “limited waste” is easy if you work out a clear plan and stick to it. But either you have to do that once and give up on variety, or plan and organise every week and that’s well above my executive function level.

For a while, it was weirdly “Long Kiss Goodnight”. It was getting heavy rotation on TV during my high-school exams, and improbaly watched it 15 times over the few weeks I was meant to be studying.

But now, probably LOTR extended edition, which I’ve seen every year since it came out, at my friend’s annual birthday celebrations.

The things that we call accents are just collections and patterns of speech variation, usually regional or class-based. Each individual has their own minor variations, depending on their speech communities and life experience. So, you’re kinda right to hear them as a bunch of individual voices.

But if you’re interested in tuning back into accents, you can start learning / spotting the features that mark the difference. Do they pronounce an ‘R’ at the end of a word? Or just use a long vowel? Would they pronounce cot and caught the same?

Once you start noticing, its less about matching an accent to a stereotype, and more about understanding all the interesting ways that speech variation occurs.

I so miss feed veggie and/or bean burgers! Being served fake beef, or soya mince or something is awful. obviously some people prefer them, and they’re fully. entitled to their opinion, but beyond personal taste, I have had more success moving meat eaters to good food that happens to be vegan than I have convincing them weird substitutes are worth eating. Humous and falafel - yes please! Fake kebab meat with fake cheese sauce - 🤮

I’d happily watch some clips of all of your suggestions. But I don’t think it’s a great idea in reality. There’s a lot more to acting that just having a specific appearance. Watching Humphery Bogart’s take on the character of Indiana Jones would be awesome, but watching his face deepfaked over Harrison Ford would be meh, and watching a team of graphic artists attempt to recreate what they think would be an interesting Bogart performance might work, but also might be dull, or unimaginative.

What they’d probably need to do, is hire an actor to create the performance then cover his face up with cgi. In which case, I’d rather just watch the actual actor.

But a future where it’s easy for fans to create mash ups and fan fiction episodes sounds fun. And I’d happily watch those for fun.

The first image I clicked on started with “Daily - Make Bed” and I noped out of the whole thing. There’s cleaning that needs done regularly for health and there’s tasks that get more onerous the longer you leave them (like laundry). But I’ll never understand the obsession with making beds.

Maybe people have more complex bedding setups, but mostly I just have a duvet on top and fitted sheet below. What difference does it make to anyone if I lay the duvet out flat and smooth each day? I’m immediately going to move it around when I go to bed, and I spend almost no time in my bedroom when I’m not in my bed. It’s the equivalent of saying “Daily - Fold the end of the toilet paper into a neat triangle”. If anything, immediately covering your used bedsheets with a duvet is trapping in moisture. At least the German habit of hanging your duvet out to air each day serves a purpose!

That was… something. And I’d bet that Dan is on lemmy.

I did. But I never fantasised about actual incest, and certainly not with my family members. But fantasy incest in porn? Defo works for me.

I think lots of people are very capable of finding stuff hot as a fantasy while having zero interest in the reality. In fact, that’s part of the appeal. If I’m just watching hot people have sex, it just kinda makes me sad I’m not having sex with them. But if I’m watching a kinky scene or something that is taboo because of the relationship of the characters involved, then I can find it hot without being disappointed it isn’t real.

(and while I think there’s something to your theory, the popularity of stepmom porn suggests it’s not that simple, as most people who watch that probably had a mom)

I wonder if OP’s comments are often clarifications or even polite “thanks, I’ll try that!” kinda comments. Which are useful and appreciated, but aren’t adding a major new response and so less likely to be upvoted.

Also, people often up vote what they consider the “best” response to the question or issue of the post. And usually OP doesn’t provide the best response to their own post.