I’m sorry if this is not what you want to hear, but I’ll give my perspective anyway.

Why do you care about getting “back in your industry/career”? Yeah you did it previously, but is it really what makes you happy?

When you have goals, you always think “once I reach this, everything will be better”. In my experience and with everyone I ever talked with, this was never the lasting case. Reaching some nice goal gave satisfaction for days or sometimes even weeks or months, but never longer. Then it was back to dissatisfaction and another goal.

The common path frequently described out of depression is getting back into the groove of setting goals, following them, not being satisfied, setting another goal, repeat. This is not how I got out of my depression and also not a good life.

I don’t think it’s important that you reach your goal of getting back in your industry or whatever. I think it’s important that you’re fine with not reaching it. I think it’s important to recognize that you can be happy and satisfied right where you are, exactly with what you have.

But I haven’t been trying hard at all…

Wow, why is it so hard for you to say what the problem is? It’s going to be a bit hard to get any advice.

I assume you wanted children but are sterile? You can still adopt. Even if that’s not what you mean, there are always alternatives in some way that let you achieve what you want, maybe not exactly like you imagined it, but a similar thing.

Everyone else already has said the “general” stuff that can be said without getting any more information from you. If you really want help, you should be ready to share some more information and answer questions people have, as well as answer people’s comments with sharing your true thoughts, not holding back like you did in your main post.

In the end, how do you get over this? You understand rationally that you can never plan the future 100%. You understand that once people achieve a goal/plan, they don’t become happy, they just try to achieve a new goal/plan. To become happy, you have to be happy with what you currently have, no matter what that is.

You don’t have to have an identity to live. Identity is irrelevant. It’s a thought-up human concept that in the grand scheme of things has no meaning. What does it matter what your identity was 100 years from now? 1000 years from now? A million years from now?

And once you rationally understand these things, you have to convince your subconscious of them as well, which is much harder and requires lots of practice.

Seems like it’s happening to me, too. Don’t know how accurate it is, but I do seem to be craving certain types of food.

If you’re able to get a job at Meta/Google/etc, you’re also able to get a job at a less shitty company.

Microplastics have also been found in our drinking water. So maybe stop drinking water altogether.

Godwin’s law itself always confused me. Of course comparisons with nazi Germany are overused, but it’s literally only 80 years ago. The fact that it could happen such a short time ago means that many of the same dangers, same lessons learned are very likely still completely applicable today. The human behaviors that led to Nazi Germany are still there, in/outgroup thinking, fear of foreigners/others, etc etc etc

So yeah I don’t think “Godwin’s law” existing as a concept should stop valid comparisons.

is it unfair to make things better for some when the majority is paying to keep the game as it was before?

As I already said I think, yes it is unfair.

However, you really have to differentiate a bit here, because all the things you talk about that are changing in OSRS seem like they’re entirely ignorable. If there’s a gay pride event, yeah it doesn’t need to be there, but you can also just not participate in it. If it’s possible to change your character’s gender and appearance, you can simply not do it.

There is no core game mechanic being changed or even tangentially touched. So yeah, it’s unfair that they change it when the promise is to not change anything, but it’s really also an incredibly small change that has a minimal if not non-existent impact to the majority, but a very huge impact to a small amount of people. At that point it becomes a bit more grey what “should” be done.

almost universally disliked update, I cannot find one positive comment towards it

In the video you added this statement to, there are maybe like 10% of YouTube comments that say they’re fine with it. So you saying “I cannot find one positive comment towards it” is a little weird. This is also imo a high amount of positive comments even if it’s just like 10% because the 10k views it has will probably mostly be watched by people looking for the controversy and speak their dissent.

protest with a very small amount of people counter protesting

If the red icons are protestors, and the blue hearts are the counter-protestors (which is what it looks like to me) then it looks more like 60/40, which I wouldn’t call a very small amount.

But what you really have to compare is how many people participate in the pride march compared to how many protest, that is the real difference that needs to be measured. I look at this video https://youtu.be/jr1XAa2cx_M and there seems to at least be 20 times as many people as what you showed in your protest video. Which is funnily enough about the 5% minority we talked about xD

For me as an outsider looking in, this seems like exactly the kind of mindset by people opposing these changes that is problematic and they need to change, which is about 50% of the population of the US which I suspect is also reflected in OSRS playerbase. I’ve spoken with people before that are like this.

They think their opinions are being censored and that is a huge problem and they don’t want to see this stuff because it shouldn’t be political etc.

These are all completely valid arguments theoretically. Like these are not bad views to hold. But they entirely miss the point because that’s what humans do, human minds work by compartmentalizing and by “explaining away” their natural behavior. Humans are an incredibly irrational species that try to, after the fact, explain the irrational behavior with rational sounding explanations.

The natural behavior here is the disgust of gay and trans and queer people. Fear/disgust of the “foreigners” or “people very different from myself” is one of the base human behaviors. The reason they can’t ignore these events, even though they are entirely ignorable, is because this disgust reaction is triggered within them. Their automatic compartmentalizing brain then searches for acceptable reasons to dislike it, and comes up with “OSRS was said to never be changed” and “politics shouldn’t enter the game”. This process in a human mind is entirely automatic and not conscious at all. But the real motivation why they can’t ignore it is the disgust/hatred of queer people. But they don’t even see that this is what’s happening, as I said, this process is entirely automatic.

Everyone, including people that hate queers, has this image in their mind of being good. But hating queers isn’t good. So “hating queers” doesn’t even consciously enter the mind, even though you can easily see it from their behavior. If they didn’t have a problem with queers they’d just ignore these easily ignorable things. But they don’t.

And even this mine explanation will be vehemently denied by these people. Because that would be too painful, because they would be admitting they’re not the wonderful people whose image they have in their minds. Doing this would break them. So they continue consciously saying “of course we don’t hate the gays” while subconsciously still hating the gays. And I completely understand this behavior because I was exactly the same at some point. I personally was mysoginistic and racist against immigrants at one point in my life and completely oblivious about it. At the time, I didn’t think that I was. But I had all these little unconscious behaviors that showed my true subconscious beliefs. I know how painful it is to confront yourself being terrible. It is not possible to bear this pain for most if your life is already mostly miserable. I was lucky in that I had a relatively good life and a strong self-improvement mindset instilled from my environment, and thus was able to face and bear this pain and effect real change within me. But it was real pain, and had I been in a slightly worse situation, I might have not been able to do this.

What people are doing with pride events and these trans-inclusive changes is yes, forcing diversity down people’s throats. You could say that it’s wrong to do that to people, entirely true, it is authoritan of them. But the goal is to reduce hatred of queer people. There’s just no way you can really argue against these motivations. A gay pride event hurts nobody. No one is forced to participate. They’re forced to see it, yes, because studies have shown that exposure to different cultures and lifestyles increases acceptance of them. If they were tucked away, that wouldn’t happen. And this triggers their disgust. You probably can’t change these people, but maybe all the new ones that haven’t been tainted to much by disgust of others behaving “differently”.

So in the end, I think these changes and events are good even though they don’t strictly “belong” in OSRS.

You can try to find a lawyer that maybe specialized in this kind of stuff. They’ll know best what to do.

I don’t have anything to add to help you, the other commenters already handled it.

However what I wanted to say, I’m each time baffled anew how people can’t just talk about their issues with each other. I’m glad I filtered out everyone not able to do that long ago.

You should sell the house first, establish dominance.

(No but seriously, listen to everybody else :)

They’re entirely right. If they paid for it to not change anything except when polled, then the company broke their promise. They should now vote with their wallet and leave.

Because while they are right that they didn’t get what they were promised, the company that makes the game is also entirely right with doing whatever the fuck they want with the game. If they want to break their promise, that’s entirely up to them.

I’m pretty sure the company didn’t enter a contractual agreement with the playerbase to never make unpolled changes. So the only thing you can do is voice your discontent and leave. Which is exactly what seems like it’s happening and what should happen.

Now what I would strongly disagree with is your assessment of “most of the playerbase is pretty right leaning” and upset with it. How do you know this? Did you personally poll/study all, or an accurately representative sample of RuneScape players, ensuring an unbiased evaluation of the data? I suspect not. I suspect what has happened, again, is the vocal minority doing what they do, being vocal and a minority. There’s a loud outcry from, just guessing, 5% of the players, while the silent 95% like it or don’t care and just continue on.

All valid points, however it seems like no productive conversation is possible with OP.

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It’s a cat on the internet, I think there’s nothing special about it. I also think their picture does not belong in an AskLemmy community, it fits rule 5: this is not an actual topic of discussion.

resent forced socialization.

is anyone forcing you to socialize? If so, how are you forced?

And because I’m the only one with this job mentality, it’s always me the one who works while the rest do nothing.

That sounds to me like there are too many nurses then. If everyone can do nothing and you’re the only one working, that must mean only one nurse is required, right? Did you inform your superiors about this?

I don’t want to work with people who slow me down.

How do they slow you down? It seems from your post like they just don’t do much, how does that impact your speed exactly? You say while they talk, you can work. Isn’t that the opposite of slowing you down, they’re actually getting out of your way?

I like having a roof, food and healthcare.

You live in Germany, you actually have the luxury to not work. Everyone gets a roof, food and healthcare, even without working.

Also, this is not an argument against your co-workers: if they do less than you, isn’t your job safe then and everything is good?

I don’t want to work with people with this mindset.

Then you should stop working, because they will be everywhere to some degree.

Are you advising me to ignore patients when they call?

If your work is done, that’s exactly what you do. Or if you’re in the process of doing something else/handling another patient, idk how it works exactly. It’s the responsibility of management to ensure that all patients get treated, not yours. You can and should of course report when this doesn’t happen and you notice it.

Watching images on a screen or watching it in reality is not that different to our primitive brain. Yeah you might be able to consciously distinguish it, but most of your mental facilities can’t. This is literally why this is entertainment at all, if it wouldn’t be counted as real by most of your brain you wouldn’t get any enjoyment from it.

So no, it’s not at all stupid, it’s just normal.

I unfortunately can’t help you with what I think you should do: emigrate to another country, preferably one of the more socialist European ones. I don’t know what is required to emigrate, it probably differs per country. But I’m pretty sure it should be possible to find out by going online and looking around.

I wish you lots of good luck and all the best. I hope you can get a better life. Just remember, people are shitty everywhere, they’re just more or less shitty.

Is really the only punishment you can think of slavery?