Why is android superior then iOS, why, and how is it safer then iOS
It isn’t superior or safer. Whatever you did to your phone to install spyware will not project you any bette by using android.
I’m not even sure what you could have installed that would break out of the app sandbox. It’s likely to I have some device management profile installed, but even that seems unlikely. It’s also possible your phone compromised but that’s typically requires a state level attack.
I’m actually leaning towards drug use or carbon monoxide poisoning. Yeah, it is that weird and you sound that paranoid.
Being born in the same town means there is a high chance of it being a relative of the girl and her grandmother.