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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • For me getting an alarm clock made a difference. Because that nullified my brains weak excuse that I needed my phone by my bed “for an alarm”. No I didn’t. People have woken up perfectly reliably for years before smartphones. So I got an alarm clock. And that made it easier to turn going to bed into calm reading time instead of doom scrolling (by leaving my phone charging in other room). And that’s made a big difference, not only to quality of reading but also general mood.




  • At least when they make the ad part of their show it’s easier to just skip forward past it (eg YouTube keyboard shortcut to skip forward ten seconds) It depends what you’re listening to really. A lot of content producers have made their peace with the fact that people are not going to pay for their content so some sort of spoken ad means they get some sort of return. I generally only listen to research / academic based shows where they have a separate patreon for ad-free episodes and discussions. I don’t mind paying for that where I think their content is worth it. That feels like a more honest exchange.


  • True, though I don’t think it’s just capitalism that causes this dishonesty. I think it’s any time there’s a depersonalised entity motivated to coerse people. And certainly that happens under capitalism. But you could point to centrally planned communist states peddling bullshit to people too.

    I think the antidote (so far as practical ones go) - and speaking of the West - is to ‘shop local’. People find it harder to lie and be disingenuous when’s there’s a genuine relationship there besides the trade.

    That’s the most egregious part about adverts (to me), things pretending to be my friend when there’s nothing there of the sort. It would be different if it’s an actual friend of mine suggesting this or that because they thought it would actually benefit me (and holding their tongue when they knew it wouldn’t)


  • Maybe it’s my age, but I’m more and more painfully aware of how many ways adverts pretend to be your friend. It’sv one of the most insipid and disingenuous things about modern society. The sheer ubiquity of charming voices trying to act like the common man, a chatty friend, a hapless discoverer of product X that offers you “up to” a benefit of… whatever.

    The whole damn thing is just horrible and crap and predatory and wears down the soul, because my soul was programmed to be surrounded by a ‘clan’ motivated by my wellbeing (and I theirs in a meaningful way)

    Actually… quite specifically it’s the “up to” thing that happens in adverts. “Up to 100% effective” the advert says. “Well what the hell does that mean?!” I yell at the telly. “Sometimes it’s 1% effective?? Why are you even talking to me about this thing?”. It’s ghoulish.

    /rant


  • Likewise, I grew up on a council estate in the north of England. Worked my way up to a good education and eventually created a $250k consulting business in London.

    My experience of six figure earners in London was that many were also “new”, their parents had been working class, which I suppose points to some social mobility and meritocracy left in Britain.

    For others it was totally normal. Not that they were from money, but in the more mundane sense that they’d grown up in London, they and all their friends had gotten tutor support by parents who both worked and for whom looking at the job opportunities on offer in London, a six figure salary was a realistic prospect after working some years. This is probably the category I aspire for my kids to be in

    Then there are the kids from money. Not unpleasant people, Britain doesn’t quite have that competitiveness in the same way. Bragging about income is still crass. But they did seem genuinely clueless of the grief they’d been spared because bank of mum+dad bunged them a loan of 500k when they bought their first place, which they then paid back fairly effortlessly.

    The most unpleasant people I ever dealt with were rich people from other countries. Maybe because in Britain money doesn’t buy you class or respect.