36 / M / Germany

Pretty much spot on.

They don’t owe you anything. Not sex, not a kiss, not a hug, not a second date, not even a smile. If the date goes well, you will get some or even all of those but if you try to force them, you will get nothing. Sure it can be disappointing if you put in a lot of effort and get nothing back but you will have to live with that. Sometimes people just aren’t compatible and sometimes a date just goes wrong because of a weird coincidence.

Be nice, even if the date doesn’t go as you wanted. Open communication goes a long way and chances are that the person you’re talking to is just as insecure as you are. Explain (not accuse) why you don’t think this situation will work out. If you’re lucky, you can turn the conversation around. If not, at least you’re ending the date in a civil way. That also (and especially) applies to talking on online dating platforms. Sometimes you can tell just from a conversation that things won’t go anywhere. Way too many people just drop the conversation and move on which can feel pretty rude. Be nice, explain what’s up, give them a friendly goodbye and then move on.

Those rules apply to both sides. You don’t owe them anything either, especially if they get rude. You should still try to be friendly in case there is a misunderstanding but try to get yourself out of an uncomfortable situation before it gets worse. Your safety is still priority number one.

Edit: some more

Don’t expect a relationship to last. Chances are it won’t. But this isn’t as pessimistic of a tip as you might expect. Even a single day of joy can be worth it if you manage your expectations. I’ve had a relationship crash and burn after seven years, I’ve had ones that lasted a couple of months and I’ve had someone ghost me after the second date. And still, all of them gave me amazing memories that I wouldn’t want to miss and they helped me grow as a person. Allow things to grow on their own and enjoy the process. Maybe you will marry that person. Maybe you’ll date them for a few months or years. Maybe you will never get past second base but stay platonic friends. Maybe you will spend the most amazing day of your life with them and then never see them again because you accidentally spilled something over their favorite t-shirt.

Sure. I use it as a structured place to keep notes on anything that may be important later, not specifically tasks:

• Important people in my life (friends and family) with a short bio, where we met, favorite food, allergies, ideas what I could get them for their birthdays, links to their social media profiles, plans for shared vacations, maybe a few photos.
• Recipes from all kinds of sources. If they are from a video or one of those “scroll past three pages of sentimental nonsense” sites, I summarize them and translate them into German with metric units.
• Lists with interesting links about 3D printing, software development and so on. Keeping these in a wiki instead of just my browser’s bookmarks list allows me to better categorize them and add notes.
• A list of open questions and project ideas that I can’t research right now like “Where is the best place to get custom printed LEGO minifigs?” and “Why do the zfs drives in my home server sometimes have problems waking up from sleep?”
• Lists of interesting products/books/movies/… that I might buy/read/watch/… at some point
• Some writing stuff: D&D campaigns, short stories, diary-like entries
• A list of all computers in my household with hardware specs, operating system and so on

All of those get put into categories and the categories are displayed on the main page via the categorytree plugin. The nice thing about having a wiki is that you have a lot of options for linking or embedding related content while still keeping it somewhat organized.

Last week I found out that there are off-brand batteries for my DSLR cameras that can be charged directly through USB-C so I don’t have to pack a different charger for every camera. Let that sink in!

Overall pretty great, in a pinch I can charge my laptop on a Nintendo Switch power supply. Now if I could just upgrade the last few remaining Micro-USB and Lightning devices without spending a fortune…

Polarion. Wouldn’t recommend it but it’s what my employer wants me to use.

For personal stuff, I use a private MediaWiki instance (same software that runs Wikipedia) as my external brain.

There are 36 million Ukrainians. I doubt you’ll find any property that they all have in common, except for being humans.

Honestly, that was the option I had hoped for when I made that joke. I‘m happy for you.

Sooo… have you decided yet, which one you want to be?

For me, the key was finding a regular time during the day when I do the lessons. That’s why I recommended you do it during the ad breaks.

Learn a language. Ad breaks are long enough for one or two lessons in Duolingo and probably other apps as well.

Asklemmy is not a support community, you might have more luck in photography related communities.

That being said, you basically answered your own question. Your integrated flash is either stuck or blocked. Hard to tell without seeing it in person. You might try to help the camera by carefully pulling on the flash while holding the flash button (on the left side of the camera body). Maybe there is some dirt trapped in the hinge. If you can get it open (please, please, please don’t break the hinge), try carefully cleaning it.

But here comes the kicker: the integrated flash on most cameras is absolute garbage and I’d recommend you just disable it. There is a reason why high end cameras don’t even have an integrated flash. An integrated flash is 20-30 times smaller than even the most basic external flash so it makes extremely hard shadows. (Edit: also, you can’t modify the flash brightness and the flash is so close to the camera body that you may see the shadow from your lens in your photos) If you can afford it, buy a cheap external flash (I’d recommend one from Yongnuo) and a mini softbox that you can put on the flash. It will make your photos A LOT better for not that much money.

If you’re interested, I can dig out my old 760D and take some comparison shots between internal flash, external flash without softbox and external flash with softbox.

How would software support improve?

• Less fragmentation between multiple different ways to install software (Ubuntu-derived distributions currently have apt, flatpack and snap while some software is available in neither so I have to manually download a binary or even compile it myself)
• Better support for certain use cases like… I don’t know… fractional scaling which Windows has supported since Vista
• Simplified system settings. People make fun of Windows splitting settings between the “new” settings app and the old control center. On most Linux distributions, I may have to set some things multiple times for my window manager, my compositor and so on… again, scaling is the main culprit here but themeing has similar problems.

Basically fix the few things that work better in Windows, even for power users, ideally without sacrificing the flexibility that makes Linux so awesome.

Edit: bonus suggestion though this one is kind of tricky to do without sacrificing flexibility:

Less fragmentation between distributions. Recently I had some driver problem (can’t quite remember what) and googled a solution. I found a solution in a support forum for a different distribution than what I had. Looked good but in the end it didn’t help me because the config files were in completely different locations, default configs were different, packages had different names and they recommended using some UI tool to configure the device that wasn’t available on my distribution or at least I couldn’t find how to install it.

For myself, I’ll eventually figure that out. It takes me a few hours that I could spend on something productive but whatever, we’re geeks, we do shit like that. But now imagine my mom calls me about that problem. She probably won’t have the same distribution that I have because we have entirely different use cases. Good look troubleshooting that over the phone. With Windows, I can rely on 80% of all users having one of the latest two versions (so currently 10 or 11). The fix that works on my machine will probably work on theirs and most things I find online will apply to what they have. Same for macOS.

Edit 2: For context, I run Ubuntu and Debian on quite a lot of headless machines such as servers and embedded stuff. It works great and I wouldn’t want to miss it. But on desktop, I’m still in Windows and won’t leave for the foreseeable future. Every few months I try setting up some desktop linux and every time it takes less than a week to annoy me so much that I’d rather wipe the whole thing and install Windows than figure out how to fix that mess of two different display servers, five different desktop environments and two entirely incompatible GUI frameworks in a trenchcoat.

Posts within the same community are synced and you can see communities from different instances. The point is that news@instance1 and news@instance2 are different communities even though the names are similar.

The counter argument is that reddit has the same problem even without federation. /r/games, /r/gaming and /r/gamers are three different subreddits with very similar names and you have no way of knowing which one is the “main” gaming community unless you check each of them. With time, this will probably sort itself out with lemmy as well. It just takes time for one of the similar communities to become the de facto standard.

A friend recently commented “Of course you have ADHD! Just look at your apartment! Spots that are important for your hobbies are designed with surgical precision and everything else slowly sinks into chaos.”

He might be right.

iPhone 12 Mini. I loved my 5S and first gen SE and I still can’t understand why phone manufacturers these days insist on making tablets and calling them phones. I just want something that fits in my pocket. I would probably have switched to Android years ago but I haven’t found a single Android phone with a small form factor, decent performance and decent camera.

One common answer is the Vehicle Assembly Building at Kennedy Space Center which is mainly one really tall room.

„Does chease_greater sometimes manage to not shit their pants?“. Doesn’t matter if you phrase it as „ever“ or „sometimes“. Either way you imply an expected norm.

The thing is that the way you phrase those questions sounds like you are seeking confirmation rather than clarification.

From a physics perspective, devices that create heat are by definition 100% efficient. Where else would the energy go than into heat?

I don’t want to be rude but the way you phrase your questions sounds a lot like you have a certain opinion about Russia and China that you want us to confirm.

I don’t think we have an expert on Russian and Chinese law here so all we can do is google stuff for you.

From the Wikipedia article it seems like at least Russia has a functional legal system (though one that works slightly differently from the ones we might be used to). The expectation that the government decides who is guilty regardless of the truth sounds like an exaggeration born out of an „us vs. them“ argument, similar to „democrats kill babies“. I‘m not an expert though, so don’t listen to me and instead look for independent sources.