Yeah, you have to make them see you as a member of a shared in-group. That’s the most important thing to them (and many people, honestly. we’re all susceptible to tribalism and such)

I’m going to guess

• poor media coverage
• media is explicitly hostile to protests and pro trump/right-wing-extremism
• many people are living paycheck to paycheck + we have minimal labor protection
• years of left-wing organizations being kneecapped (eg: the murder of fred hampton)

A lot of people are angry but there’s not really much organization. As much as I would love someone to take 50,000 of their closest friends, march down to DC, and shoot every republican in the head, without years of organizing that’s just a fantasy. Unfortunately, the right wing has been doing years of organizing and it’s now bearing fruit for them.

I don’t know any republicans personally but I would not be surprised if, given a choice between admitting fault and feeling bad, or literally any other option including lying or violence, they won’t admit fault. If they weren’t emotionally stunted, they wouldn’t be conservatives.

Right now, in this particular moment?

Every republican (and those who would vote republican if they were in the US) is round up and shot dead.

Pretty much any system the survivors come up with will be better.

I’ll be a killjoy and answer sincerely: just number them. 1st Ave, 2nd Ave, 3rd Ave, etc.

moving mouse targets. Like let’s say you have two pinned items on the start menu, Firefox and steam. You click Firefox and it starts to open. You go to click steam, but Firefox finishes opening and the icon gets bigger. Steam’s icon then moves to the right, so you click where it was but instead just hit Firefox again. It’s stupid.

Note how Firefox has solved this with tabs. Open a bunch of browser tabs. Enough so they shrink a little. Then rapidly close some, starting from the left. Notice how they don’t change size until you’re done closing tabs.

Mouse tunnels. Like you click the “File” menu, and then mouse over “New” and a long sub menu opens. Longer than the original File menu. If you mouse directly from the top of File to the bottom of New, your cursor will briefly be outside either menu. This often will cause the entire menu to close. Mouse tunnel. Have to keep the cursor in the tunnel. Annoying.

Had an old job that insisted this was fine and refused to let me or anyone change the interface to fix it (on a website)

Focus stealing. Like you’re typing, and some other application pops up and takes focus. The absolute worst is when it pops up and puts focus on a dialogue box, and you just happened to hit “enter”. Instead of adding a new line to your document, you just accepted something. Awful.

i am inclined to agree. the final fantasy 7 remake was surprisingly gentle about not having stupid missables. You could miss stuff, but it was recoverable without starting the whole thing over.

i had a whole argument with someone on here a while ago where they insisted i just had “fomo” because i didn’t like this sort of surprise consequences. Foreshadowing is cool. Unpredictable is, to me, unsatisfying.

I highly recommend using a guide if you’re not extremely chill about missing stuff.

I also realized partway through I really dislike pathfinder 1e, so i just started cheating, and then lost interest.

True. Kingmaker, if I recall, had a lot of weird “aha! You didn’t return to this particular forest on this particular day, so now you don’t ever get to meet this key character! No, there wasn’t any foreshadowing!”

That was kind of annoying.

Foreshadowing helps a lot.

yeah, but in those players’ defense that is the norm in video games. Most people hate timed quests!

Sometimes it’s funny when tabletop RPG players expect the game to behave like a video game.

GM: “The nearby town sent a message that a swarm of zombies is coming down the haunted mountain for them! They need help!”

PCs: “Cool. But let’s finish that mushroom side quest first, and then we gotta help our wizard buddy get his new broom tuned up.”

GM: “…okay.”

<two in-game days later>

PCs: “Ok, what do we see when we get to that town?”

GM: “Seems like everyone’s dead. Looks a swarm of zombies or something came down from the mountain and ate everyone alive or something, maybe a day or two ago.”

PCs: <confused, shocked>

I was going to say the same. But I think there’s a big difference between a band (art) and like the startup tshirts I’ve accumulated as “free swag” over the years (not art).

A band is cool and human expression. Some website that sells ads in emails is capitalist nonsense.

Yes, that graph sort of thing is exactly something I’ve imagined before. I think it has potential. Assuming you have users, that is.

This is interesting. Hinge pushed out a message to users that was like “studies show that ghosting makes you and the person you’re ghosting feel bad! It’s not a big deal to just say no thanks!”. I don’t know if it made a difference.

One of the things to take into account is some people (often but not always men) are dangerous. Women have told me they’ve ghosted because the man was giving them danger vibes. Encouraging the person to unmatch might be good enough.

One thing I’d like to see, I think, is some way for me to rate people I match with but didn’t keep dating. Like Alex was polite and punctual and respectful, but they hate cats so we can’t be a thing. All that info just goes into the void. Though i wouldn’t have this be free text, and there’s more ways to screw it up than do it right. Information about people ghosting or flaking would go in the same bucket.

I think getting people to pay anything will be a hard sell. But I also think “free” creates bad incentives. This is probably “better” but humans are really bad at understanding things.

I wonder if a tip / pay what you want model would have legs. Probably there’s too many freeloaders, sadly.

I would also feel pretty bad if I paid for the match and it fizzled out. Like we chat but don’t have a date, or realize there’s some deal breaker (eg: they’re moving away in a month, they smoke, they hate bisexuals, etc). Some of that would be covered by the profile, but some won’t, or won’t be noticed.

I might try it, based on what I saw with the first couple free matches. But it would also get expensive really quickly. Cheaper than subscriptions though. I think hinge wants like $50/mo for it’s top tier.

Like, do I pay $100 up front to have 100 likes in flight? Or do I bottleneck it to some smaller number and wait for the duds to expire? Wait for others to make the first move? The optimal strategy is unclear.

Sorry, sort of just rambling a bit.

Is NYC one of your target markets?

Most people don’t care about things. This is kind of a recurring problem. Imagine if people just cared a little bit more. All sorts of problems, like littering, would just go away.

But people are lazy and don’t care. They don’t care that their behavior today will be a problem for them tomorrow.

The big sites are where the content is, and that’s what they want. Suffering a little bit of hardship (fewer memes) in order to bolster a stronger future? Ridiculous.

Pledge is kind of a weird term for it. Sounds like one of those culty christian “purity pledge” things. Would not recommend using that word. Maybe “like” or “wave” or “wink” or something like that.

Is it 3 free matches per lifetime? Or per some smaller period of time?

That’s good that it doesn’t hide matches. That’s a really irritating behavior on Tinder, Feeld, and others. Just tell me who’s already interested so I can focus on that instead of throwing more into the void.

Now, next questions: What, if anything, are you doing about conversation and profile? In my experience, a lot of people absolutely self sabotage here. They have a blank profile, or one without any hooks, and then they get upset that the only messages they get are “hey”. Or they only send messages that are “hey”, and then are like “i hate small talk why is only small talk happening”

Personally I don’t think you can fix that without like several generations of intense investment in education, but maybe a well thought out app could nudge people in the right direction. Hell, even a thing that scanned a message for a question mark and reminded the user “If you don’t ask them any questions, you’re not going to seem interested in them” would make a difference.

I just noticed this has a range of 1 mile

High level wizard can chill in his tower and just nuke that little village down the road.

Run this flow by me?

I load up the app. I see an attractive person. I hit “like”. Do I pay now? Or do I only pay if they also like, so there’s an extra step of “you both hit like but didn’t pay”?

Does the other person get notified when I hit like?

I think Tinder started by going to college campuses, finding who was hot and popular, and paying for them to throw parties. Anyone who went was told to install the app.

I’m in NYC. I can get a date a week on the apps, but the quality varies. And like I just got ghosted twice this month. There’s room for improvement.

Interesting. Dating apps are garbage for pretty well understood reasons.

What is your pricing? Do I pay only on mutual like or if I make the first move?

How are you going to get users? Users are notoriously … what’s a nicer word than stupid… about platforms. Look at how many people stick to Twitter and tinder even though they hate them, “but that’s where people are!”