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Cake day: January 13th, 2026

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  • So. I’ve had multiple experiences. I’m poly, so some strange scenarios ahead, but as an adult here they are, in the order they started:

    Met through work, and was a platonic partner of about 5 years. Ended because of housing issues, but the relationship was… Fine. She definitely had issues, but nothing worse than I had. Also the only one of these I date while being coworkers.

    Next one I met through work. Only lasted 2 months, and her fiance’s girlfriend had to coach her through breaking up with me because she had a stack of cotton candy where most people have a spine.

    Next one I’m still with 6 years later, almost 7. Met on a dating app, and it’s been fairly smooth since.

    Next one I met through work. Been together for about 7 years as well (3 weeks after previously mentioned relationship started)

    Next one I also met through work, and was a platonic partner of about 5 years. Ended because of housing issues.

    Next one lasted 3 months. It ended amicably, we just weren’t great as partners.

    Next major partner was the only abusive one I’ve had. Met her through a friend who I met on a dating app. Real piece of work, but I got a room mate for 3 years out of the deal so hey. Silver linings. (I kept the boyfriend in the breakup)

    Next one was someone I met on a dating app. Ended it because their spouse was unsafe to be around.

    Next one is the girl who coached second partner through breaking up with me. Yeah. Wild experience. I met her through the that partner, we screeched like pterodactyls at each other, and stayed friends after the breakup. We’re officially just FWBs, but… It’ll be 4 years this year, so worth mentioning regardless?

    Overall it’s a fuckin’ grab bag. Dating apps are great, meeting through work goes well, and apparently helping your ex’s fiance break up with their partner because said fiance’s spinal cord was replaced with spun sugar doesn’t sour things all that much.




  • I do quite a lot of writing, knitting, gaming, crochet, website making, and game development on my old T430. Also emacs is a hobby, and I use it with all of the above, so count that in xD

    • Writing: Good creative outlet, lotta fun, you can do it on a toaster if you’re really strapped for PC specs. Fanfic is especially fun, and a very common way to cut your chops writing.
    • Knitting: Useful! You get clothes and wash rags and bags at the end of it! Can be rough on the hands though.
    • Crochet: See knitting. Harder on the hands IMO, but I also tension like I’m strangling someone, so that could be my fault.
    • Gaming: Depends on the game you’re playing. Retro stuff does well, and is a fun hobby in itself.
    • Website making: It’s fun having a blog, and if you want to feed the writing into it you could even do some basic ARG-type stuff.
    • Game development: RPG Maker, Godot, and Ren’py all work well. If you can’t draw there are some premade assets on itch.io to play around with, free and paid. Requires less coding than you’d expect, especially with RPGMaker/Ren’Py





  • Despite socializing a lot when I was working at the office, I pretty much immediately loved working from home after the initial 3 months. I’d gone back in temporarily a couple of times for a few reasons, and the whole environment was… Bad.

    I run really hot in general, so being able to control my AC was great, since I swear the office was on 74 with about a thousand bodies worth of heat in a comparatively small space. To emphasize: I tend to open a window when it’s anywhere between 0-50F (-17 to 10C) outside.

    Everyone had on different kinds of perfume, which just blended into this awful smell on top of whatever cleaning chemicals they used. Having 30+ people talking within earshot made it hard to focus on anything. I could go on. I didn’t realize how much I hated it until I started working from home, and it was so much better.