Would your ex go if the situation was reversed? Would she be willing to “put all the bad blood behind”? Not if she had any self respect. Frankly, I think just asking you is an insult in itself. It puts the onus on you to be the “bad guy”.
Your feelings are completely valid. Your son is old enough to understand the basics. DO NOT GO. She’ll ask, but don’t bother explaining why. She lost her right to know your heart when she betrayed you.
Telling them won’t make things easier, for them or you. I can’t emphasize that enough. What, exactly, are you expecting to happen? Hugs and an understanding goodbye? Not. Gonna. Happen.
Have you considered not telling them?
A crisis causes people to react in severe ways, and believe me, people will consider this a crisis. There will be tears of sadness and anger. You’ll hear the same tiresome lecture, and have to answer the same condescending questions, over and over. If you ask them to keep things within the immediate family, other people will “magically” find out (the most generous interpretation is that you’re laying something incredibly heavy on your family; it’s to be expected that some of them will need to talk about it with friends.) Some of the people you didn’t tell will even have the nerve to contact you, and force their moral “advice” down your throat.
Best case: your final interactions with the people you love will be sad and painful, and perhaps angry. Worst case: you’ll be put on informal “suicide watch”, and learn to hate and distrust the people you expected support from.
Spend some quality time with whoever you were planning to tell. Say goodbye in your heart, but don’t tell them it’s goodbye. Make some pleasant final memories.
This is funny as hell but I’m also wincing.
Well, when inexperienced, horny boys are your kink, that’s what you get.
Non medically assisted
Switch to a part time job.
Anything pro-suicide
Well, it hasn’t been entirely bad. Constantly reminding myself to add qualifying statements is something I don’t miss, but rewriting my comments for improved clarity is good. It’s easy to forget that English isn’t the first language of many Lemmy users, so I’m in favor of being more specific about the subject, instead of using words like “they” or “it” too much.
Also, there’s a good chance that people are reading my comments while they’re on the toilet or watching TV. Maybe they’re not paying 100% attention lol. A little extra specificity doesn’t hurt!
If that’s all it takes to drive them away, then we’re probably better off without them. We don’t need people who post with the sole purpose of “earning” karma.
Defensiveness. Overexplaining myself because I didn’t expect people to give me the benefit of the doubt, and I knew that if I left any room for interpretation, people would assume the worst version possible. (I didn’t know what “sealioning” was.)
It’s important to remember that this had happened slowly, over a period of years. If it had been as bad as it is now back when I first signed up, I wouldn’t have put up with it. Initially, reddit just seemed like a bunch of normal (but sometimes weird) people. It wasn’t until I discovered Lemmy that I realized I wasn’t being myself, and that every time I posted, in the back of my mind, I was expecting the worst.
Good riddance.
It took me a couple months to fully leave years of bad reddit habits behind. I didn’t realize how deeply ingrained they’d become. The toxicity had gradually snuck up on me.
Yeah, because at least they’re outside and doing something social, instead of being a hermit like me.
When I first heard about the brown M&M thing, I thought it was just celebrities being petty, or maybe a joke. Years later, when I heard Roth’s explanation, I thought it was absolute genius.
I didn’t know until right now that Yahoo even had a streaming service.
I’ve lived in America all my life. Thank you for this interesting outside perspective. I never would have guessed that the ADA is held in such high regard!
I love this one. For me, it’s never dead. It lives eternally in my heart.
2001: A Space Odyssey
Sometimes, I see a quality discussion between principled people who care deeply about the issues. They both want to do what’s best, but simply disagree on what “best” is.
Their opinions can be so far apart, though, that they’re unable to even comprehend the other position.
Max. Better than Netflix any day.
I remember those! I wouldn’t be surprised if they’re still in use. I’ve never used the drive-through lane at my bank. I can deposit checks online by taking a picture of it (which still seems weird to me), and I use the ATM for everything else.
Not having an opinion is MUCH better than sticking to an uninformed opinion with stubborn fervor. Nobody can possibly know everything, so it’s perfectly fine to take time out to research something, or decide that it’s not worth your time and forget about it completely.