Oh no, you!

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Cake day: 2024年11月3日

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  • Not that proud, as it’s a fairly trivial IT thing with niche elements. “Anyone” could do it, but there are so many different elements, all of which are trivial separately, that there aren’t a whole lot of people in the world who can do what I do because of the odd combinations.

    So while my work is (mysterious and) important for the particular industry I’m in,I’m sure any IT geek with networking and linux experience could do it after a few years of training.

    As for importance, kinda. The higher-ups consider it important enough to grant me every demand I stated when they tried to poach me from my previous employer. I was looking for an excuse to turn them down, but they agreed to everything. For example, my contract stipulates that any flight over four hours warrants business class.

    My biggest point of actual pride is the fact that I got to where I am despite growing up on a dairy farm and never finishing hischool.









  • This is where I was tempted to respond with a joke, referencing your gender and sexual identity, as an example use of what I consider acceptable in this particular contex. While you would probably get the joke and not be offended by it, I have decided against it, since there are likely to be people stumbling in, not understanding the context, and taking offense to it. Audience matters, intentionally or not. Plus, the written form makes it harder to convey the humor in a manner that cannot be misunderstood.

    Plus, I can only imagine the “this you?”-screenshots when I try to state explicitly that the boards I mod are against homophobia and transphobia, or anything similar.


  • I’d say it’s OK, provided that:

    • The context makes it clear that it’s not meant to offend.
    • The slur is actually needed. If the joke works without the slur, don’t.
    • Limited (but diverse) audience who understand the humor at play and the people involved.

    But then again, I am rarely the target of any slurs, so it’s not really up to me to decide.

    Example: This coworker and I used to make jokes about each other’s background all the time. I was mumbling under my breath about how much I hated the paperwork involved in filing expense claims. He said something referencing my lowbrow hillbilly background and how it didn’t mesh well with paperwork. I offered him 10% of the payout if he used his Jewish superpowers and did the paperwork for me. There were maybe two or three others present, all of whom knew us and our dynamic well, and nobody called HR on either of us.