Hmm, methinks that Anon (and all of us straight men) might do better by treating women as people. If we feel it’s so important to have a cute girlfriend, then should we not respect that a woman might want a cute boyfriend? If we think women should keep an open mind about us, maybe set an example, and keep an open mind about non-physical traits that make a woman cute?
Yeah, it’s always down to luck—that’s just life—but being a good dude is putting your thumb on the scale in your own favor.
They are blaming bad luck for their shitty personality. No matter how ugly you are. You can do things to make improvements and become more attractive to a potential partner. (Diet, exercise, breathing through your nose (for real), getting a hobby that a potential partner would like (music, draw, express yourself through poems?, car maintenance, something))
They think they’ll never find anyone because they’re under 6ft or don’t have dimples or whatever other thing these guys obsess over. It’s really because they have a shitty personality that they won’t improve their lives, so they blame everyone else for the actions that they aren’t taking.
They are blaming bad luck for their shitty personality.
I wish I was the kind of guy who liked being social and meeting new people, but I’m not. I can force myself to do it, but I can’t force myself to do it much (and I think people can tell that I would rather be going to the dentist). I didn’t choose to be like this, and I didn’t choose whatever inborn characteristics and childhood experiences made me end up like this. If there’s a way to choose not to be like this, I haven’t found it. I do think I got unlucky.
I’m not trying to complain about my fate here. I got lucky in a lot of other ways. I’m just saying that it isn’t fair to tell people that they would be happier if only they were someone else.
Hmm, methinks that Anon (and all of us straight men) might do better by treating women as people. If we feel it’s so important to have a cute girlfriend, then should we not respect that a woman might want a cute boyfriend? If we think women should keep an open mind about us, maybe set an example, and keep an open mind about non-physical traits that make a woman cute?
Yeah, it’s always down to luck—that’s just life—but being a good dude is putting your thumb on the scale in your own favor.
They are blaming bad luck for their shitty personality. No matter how ugly you are. You can do things to make improvements and become more attractive to a potential partner. (Diet, exercise, breathing through your nose (for real), getting a hobby that a potential partner would like (music, draw, express yourself through poems?, car maintenance, something))
They think they’ll never find anyone because they’re under 6ft or don’t have dimples or whatever other thing these guys obsess over. It’s really because they have a shitty personality that they won’t improve their lives, so they blame everyone else for the actions that they aren’t taking.
I wish I was the kind of guy who liked being social and meeting new people, but I’m not. I can force myself to do it, but I can’t force myself to do it much (and I think people can tell that I would rather be going to the dentist). I didn’t choose to be like this, and I didn’t choose whatever inborn characteristics and childhood experiences made me end up like this. If there’s a way to choose not to be like this, I haven’t found it. I do think I got unlucky.
I’m not trying to complain about my fate here. I got lucky in a lot of other ways. I’m just saying that it isn’t fair to tell people that they would be happier if only they were someone else.