• SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    It feels like you are speaking from the perspective of somebody who is sought instead of those who have to initiate relationships.

    I think the people we are talking about here want any date they can get, and they feel like they have done the things necessary to meet someone, but they dont. Which is what makes them so crazy.

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      1 day ago

      Eh, idk about being sought, but the dating experience did fundamentally change after I felt confident enough to be more worried about what a potential match brought to the table than whether or not I’d get a date. The pool of applicants wasn’t big, but I was happier being solo than with the wrong person.

      For the record, I didn’t down vote you.

      • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
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        1 day ago

        Eventually people have to settle.

        There is no person who will check all the boxes, and limiting your options too much does mean you will be alone forever.

        These people look at it mathematically, and from that perspective they aren’t wrong.