on my last thread somebody wrote that unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.
I’m guilty of this, I’m a nurse: after changing units an expectation was that the new one would be one where the physical workload would be evenly distributed. Another expectation and a promise from management was that my new unit would assign a nurse I’d shadow during my first days to get a grip of the unit. The third expectation was that I could do my job and use my downtime to learn.
None of these things are happening.
How do I stop having expectations?
ETA: A problem I see with this approach is: if every job turns out to be shit like this, why even bother? My new attitude should be go to work, work the least possible, fake it, play theatrics to do as little as possible, go home, get paid. No expectations = no disappointments.
But then, why even advance to ICU-nursing, get certifications or study medicine?
Not all workplaces are like this but a large majority are. People suck at great management.
On a specific to your career note, my wife has been an RN for over a decade at this point, 10 years being at a local hospital. Management was trash there. Her co-workers were great but management made the job suck. They blamed the C-suite (yay, capitalism). What really got her was that she never felt backed by management and when a patient would outright lie, they’d back the patient every time. She left the hospital system to work for a private endo/gastro clinic and she said she should have made that decision years prior. She gets paid less than she would at a hospital but she’s happy and loves her coworkers and the docs that own the practice. They’ve won multiple awards and are top in the region. They’ve throw a hell of a Christmas party to thank the staff (free booze FTW).
Get the hell out of the hospital and find a great private practice. They’re out there and always looking for great nurses.
Good luck friend.
thanks for that